a big part of being happy is letting yourself be happy. as in, accepting the love people are trying to offer you. as in, going the extra mile if you know it means you’ll feel better afterwards. as in, actively trying to remember and practice the things you enjoy doing. holding yourself back doesn’t just look like turning down opportunities, it also looks like depriving yourself of anything that would make you feel better. you deserve to and you should put in more effort for yourself, even if it’s just sometimes.
a big part of being happy is letting yourself be happy. as in, accepting the love people are trying to offer you. as in, going the extra mile if you know it means you’ll feel better afterwards. as in, actively trying to remember and practice the things you enjoy doing. holding yourself back doesn’t just look like turning down opportunities, it also looks like depriving yourself of anything that would make you feel better. you deserve to and you should put in more effort for yourself, even if it’s just sometimes.
Well, it helps to know that — I’m going to be a broken record with this — the human brain evolved in a very specific environment, and that environment was outside. And that’s how our forebears spent their time for hundreds of thousands of years. It’s a fairly recent development that we spend all this time, more than 90 percent of our time, inside buildings and inside cars and even when we’re outside in sort of urban, highly built up urban settings.
And the thing about the outdoors and the way that the human species evolved in the outdoors, all the information that we encounter, the sensory information that we encounter in nature, is processed really easily and effortlessly and efficiently by the brain. Our sensory faculties are kind of tuned to the kind of information and stimuli that we encounter in nature. And so this is, again, this is the scientific reason behind what everybody knows, which is that you feel more relaxed and more at ease when you take a walk outside and when you spend time in nature.
But what that has to do with attention is that that kind of diffuse attention that we’re able to spend in nature, where we’re not focusing very intently on anything but we’re just kind of allowing the gentle movements and the sort of soft contours of the things that we see outside just entertain our attention but in this very diffuse way, and the phrase psychologists use that I like is called soft fascination. It’s not a hard edged concentration. It’s a kind of soft fascination that you might experience when you’re looking at leaves rustling in the wind or watching waves on the ocean.
That state restores our attention. It kind of refills the tank in a sense. And so then we can return to our desk and we can return to that hard edged kind of concentration that we have to do to complete our studies or do our work. So I would say in your example that if you need to concentrate but you’re feeling frazzled, even a brief look out the window can have this kind of restorative effect. But ideally, a longer walk in nature would be good.
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